So, you’re in the mood to have sex with your man only for him to say that he’s not in the
mood and he would much rather watch Netflix and call it a night.
Such situations are not uncommon at all. For a time, people are led to believe that men
generally want to have sex with women all of the time. That may be true for some, but
there will come a time where men’s libido dips considerably, especially as they grow
According to Dr. Tracy Thomas, a psychologist, women should not feel bad about
themselves when their men turn them down. A loss of their sex drive can be due to a
number of reasons, including (but not limited to) performance anxiety, sleep deprivation,
dehydration, hormonal imbalances (especially lower testosterone levels), stress, and a
whole lot more.
So if you think that you were turned down, just think of the many reasons why they have
a loss in their sex drive.
Fortunately, there are things that you can do on your end to help them. One of which
would be to give them libido-boosting pills that are known to instantly help improve their
There are also other ways to do the same thing and I will talk about it more in this
Consider Each Other as a Team
Men rarely talk about their lower sex drives because it is part of their machismo to be as
sexually potent as possible.
So, if your man has a sudden loss of desire for sex, do not judge them by their inability
to last longer in bed. Think about being a team player and ask him what can be done to
help him with the situation.
Normally, you would be met with resistance, especially since men are not always the
talkative types. However, reassure him that you are going to listen without a judgmental
ear. Be the solution and not the problem.
Give It Some Time
According to Dr. Kat Van Kirk, a marriage expert and sex therapist, it important for
women to know that their sex drives might not be aligned with their partners. Treat each
one’s libido uniquely.
Because a lot of factors can affect a person’s libido, do not think negatively right off the
bat that you are the reason for their lack of sex drive.
Look at his life before judging yourself. Is he too stressed at work? Is he eating the right
kinds of foods? Is he engaging in bad habits such as excessive alcohol consumption,
binge smoking, and even doing drugs?
If you find that he has a much lower sex drive, give it some time. Perhaps, he is just too
busy thinking about work that he is not focused (yet) on the sex.
Take the Initiative
Women constantly think that men should be the ones to initiate sex, but if you do that,
you will just be disappointed. Did you know that men want to feel wanted as well? Take
the initiative and engage in sex with him. For better effect, surprise him by wearing
Sometimes, taking the initiative to engage in sex will lead to wonders.